A
relationship expert and life coach, Mrs. Ifeoma Chigbogwu, has decried the
rising deaths and injuries on spouses in Nigeria due to domestic violence, describing
such relationships as ‘domestic jungles’ reports ITRealms.
Chigbogwu, an award-winning author
and blogger in a 15-minute video made available to ITRealms, explained that the
spate of domestic violence which manifestes in wife-beatings, mutilations, violence
against pregnant women and unborn babies, has made many marriages death traps
and chambers of horrors and torture.
The motivational
speaker, who also runs an outreach programme that caters for widows and
orphans, observed that men were no longer the only culprits in domestic
violence as a growing number of female partners have reportedly become
aggressors in recent times.
“Lately, the women are
in fierce competition with the men…in this gory domestic saga. If they are not
pouring hot oil on the men, they are stabbing them to death or setting the
bedroom or house on fire while the men sleep”, Chibogwu lamented.
She hinted that “many
men are yet to wake up to the reality that their wives have overtaken them in
finding new and creative devilish methods to vent pent up anger. Honestly, this
is a tragic nightmare.”
Chigbogwu, however,
advised intending couples to observe their prospective partners carefully to
discern any attitudes or actions characteristic of abusers.
“Look out for
reverential fear of God and self-discipline, otherwise your Knight in shining
armour could become your nightmare and your Queen of your castle, could become
your Quinine.
“During courtship,
everyone should be on the lookout for tell-tale signs that are usually ignored.
Habits or demonstrated attitudes. These are called red flags or danger signals.
“Some people can cover
up their malicious and evil energies and intentions and you simply have no clue
but if truth was told, most abusive relationships do not start overnight. You
will notice the lack of transparency, the lies, the negative and dysfunctional
behaviors”, she added.
According to Chigbogwu
“How can you see a man who slaps his mother or tells you that his mother is
useless, and you go ahead and marry him happily because you feel that will save
you from mother in-law issues?
How can you hear a
young lady tell her father or older brother to shut up and mind their business,
because she has her life to live and you are happy that she is independent,
particularly if she told them so in defense of you during courtship?
There are so many
examples of red flags but assuming these were not seen or noticed. How will you
know you are in a jungle and what should you do?”
Watch full video
here:
Uj. N. Dominic/GEE
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